Coping
We cope by figuring out how to live with our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and health. We cope by developing a response to the demands from the outside world. Each of us has a personal coping style that comes naturally.
Although you may be putting much time and effort into your diabetes management, there will be occasions when unexpected, or even quite negative results may occur. Your blood glucose levels may fluctuate without explanation, your blood pressure may be uncontrolled, you are following your meal plan - yet, your weight is out of control. While you may feel like throwing in the towel - giving up on taking your medications, exercising or carefully following your meal plan because you wonder 'What's the use?' - Don't give up! Developing your abilities to cope effectively will get you through the slump and prevent you from potentially causing damage to your health.
To effectively cope, it is helpful to first identify what does NOT work. While it is tempting to deny that you have diabetes, escaping that knowledge through excessive eating or drinking, or acting out in anger, may only lead to potential complications. If you recognize any of these coping behaviors in yourself, it is important to change behaviors.
Effective coping methods include using humor to recognize your feelings and find something amusing about it. Checking your feet may not seem like much fun, but getting your kids or grandchildren to make a game of holding a mirror for you while you check, could add a silver lining to your gray cloud.
Don't be afraid to lean on your support network. While you may be independent-minded, talk to your friends, family, or caregiver about what you are experiencing. Join a diabetes support group and find out how others in similar circumstances deal with it.
Identify areas of interest that will provide a distraction. Pursue your hobbies, read a favorite book, take up an instrument - do something! Keep your mind and body active so you won't have time to dwell on the negative things life hands you that you cannot control.
Maintain positive thoughts. In the midst of your circumstances, commit to finding at least one positive. Maybe you gained some undesired weight; take a look around you for something positive - Your neighbor just started walking and now is a great time to join her. As you emptied your cupboards of your tempting, favorite treats you got the chance to visit with co-workers while you gave them away.
Indulge in some relaxation. Take time out to pamper yourself. It can be as simple as closing your door for 15 minutes to relax alone or as extensive as a weekend getaway.
When you are feeling overwhelmed and that you just can't take anymore, step back, take a deep breath and develop a plan to cope with your circumstances.
